While attitudes about online dating being an acceptable way to meet people has grown in popularity because of its ease and convenience, there are still some people who don’t like the trend. The good news is that’s not the only way to meet people in the 21st century. But everyone you know is talking about online dating, so what’s a poor lonely person to do if they choose not to participate in online dating, or peruse singles forums and chat rooms?
Get Social Being Social
Dating is really about being social and making connections that may possibly turn into a romance. The traditional face to face, in person meeting/introduction is still the best choice. So, you are going to have to disconnect from your cell phone, tablet and whatever other mobile device you are using and get out of the house and become social.
But before you do that, be strategic about your approach to finding a date using technology and social media as your people connector. Here’s how:
1) Use your social media network to find out about local events and activities, including free festivals and outdoor park concerts. If you are on social media, you are following either friends, friends of friends, people you admire, people within a common community, or people you want to get to know. Someone is talking about an event and as summer is winding down, there are still many outdoor activities still to get in, like day parties, which seem to have grown in popularity. Then there is the sports scene. Whether sports is your thing or not (because some men, and especially a lot of women are not into sports like that) there’s nothing wrong with checking out the atmosphere for lunch and a drink. There are many upscale bar environments that offer a wide menu selection and a great atmosphere to interact and be social. Men and women, alike, go to sports bars not just to watch the games, but for the social atmosphere. Or how about trying free salsa lessons and check out the scenery while learning to dance the rumba or merengue.
2) What’s trending in your industry on Twitter? If you are a career person, then you are more than likely digitally connected either through a professional membership organization or follow someone in the industry. More than likely, they use social media to promote events, conferences, or social opportunities to connect with like-minded people. As you are staying in the know for business purposes, always look out for social opportunities to meet new and exciting people.
3) While we’re on Twitter, you can use this tool to professionally connect with someone who follows you or who you follow. Now this can be tricky because you don’t want to come across as a stalker. But let’s say they tweet information that is helpful. You can tweet back or direct message them saying the information was helpful and thank them for sharing. I wouldn’t use this technique too often but you never know how a person will respond and it could possibly lead to a longer tweet conversation. Or not, but at least you are keeping your options open on other ways to meet people.
4) The longstanding dating belief is that friends are good sources to meet people, so use your handy apps to find out where your friends are hanging out and ask to join them. This may require thinking outside the box. Let’s say a group of friends is at the bowling alley but you don’t bowl. Doesn’t mean you can’t join them and cheer them on while exposing yourself to a new opportunity and new people. You don’t drink but your friend is hosting a wine and cheese tasting for a worthy cause. I’m pretty sure they will have more than wine there to drink, so stop in for an hour because again, you never know who may be present.
Leveraging your Social Media ROI
While these suggestions are just spins on traditional dating advice, consider a different perspective. This is about leveraging your return on investment of time spent on social media activity to create opportunities for finding dates in a way that may be more natural to navigate than online dating. The bottom line is that there are options for meeting people who could be potential dates so don’t force yourself to jump into the sea of online dating profiles and your heart is not into it. Finding real love is about timing and creating the right opportunities to connect with people.